Important Tips and Considerations When Researching Senior Care Facilities

This guest post was written by Claire Wentz at CaringFromAfar.com who wants you to know the scoop on choosing the right senior care facility. She has links to other websites which I found extremely helpful. I have faith in Claire that it helps if you're looking!

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Statistics show that seven out of every ten people will need assistance of some form during their lifetimes. In 2018, over 900,000 individuals resided in residential care facilities. According to the numbers, individuals entering their 65th year have a close to 70% likelihood of requiring some kind of long-term support or aid in the future.

If your loved ones have reached the age where they need more help than you can offer, nursing homes or assisted living facilities may be the best option. However, locating the right one involves many considerations. The Tales of a Stroke Patient presents the following article on what you need to consider when researching senior care facilities.

Does the Establishment Provide the Services Needed To Fulfill Your Loved One's Special Needs?

Not all facilities possess the means to provide specialized care. For instance, not all of them have the resources and trained faculty to deal with problems arising from dementia. Loved ones who suffer from Alzheimer's or a similar disease typically need specialized memory care services. Urinary incontinence is another condition that may require more care than some facilities offer.

Another factor to consider is that assisted living homes and nursing homes are not the same. If your loved one is unable to cook and needs around-the-clock medical care and extensive aid performing daily activities, a nursing home may be more suited to those needs. While assisted living facilities offer access to similar services, the aid offered is not as expansive and these establishments provide more independence, such as allowing residents to cook, share rooms and participate in a wider range of recreational activities. Visit facility websites, social media pages and the facilities themselves to verify exactly what services they do and do not offer. 

Does the Establishment Meet Certain Standards?

With all the news stories circulating about poor nursing homes, it has become even more imperative to personally check the quality of the institutions that will house and care for your loved ones in their remaining years. Read reviews to learn from other people's experiences. Talk to the staff and gauge their enthusiasm and competence. Individuals that seem to enjoy their work are often more invested in their patients and provide better care.

Ask questions, such as "Are the workers required to undergo background checks before being hired?" and "Are employees licensed and trained?" Is the facility equipped to deal with dietary needs and physical disabilities? Does it have safety and handicap measures such as clearly marked exits, wheelchair ramps, handrails and good lighting? How frequently does the staff check on the residents? Walk around and get a feel of the facility, if possible. 

Does the Establishment Fall Within the Affordable Range?

The average cost associated with nursing homes and assisted living facilities varies based on location. Medicare may cover a portion of the expense up to a certain time, while Medicaid can pay for all of it but has stringent qualification requirements. Pick an affordable facility.

If you need funds, one way to acquire them is by selling a home. However, beware of hidden costs and remember that there are other considerations such as realtor fees when figuring out how much you can make from the sale. For example, if there is a mortgage, you need to look at the outstanding balance. The price you set will also be influenced by the average realty prices in the area. If you need help figuring this out, there are helpful online calculators that can estimate how much you could make from the sale. This will give you a reasonable estimate on which to base your decisions.

Taking the time to perform research and evaluate each facility helps ensure your loved one lives in comfort. When choosing, considering the cost and closeness is also vital.

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The Tales of a Stroke Patient, the true story behind my hemorrhagic stroke and its consequences, including gruesome health professionals, frightful depression, and near-death encounters. I'll take you on the journey in this blog I've written for over 12 years, but be prepared for a bumpy ride. For more information, please visit my website or contact me today for the chance to do a guest blog!

If You Don't Believe in God, This Video Isn't Your Jam

Just because you had a stroke doesn't mean that you wronged God, or vice versa. Maybe, just maybe, He has another plan for you.

Clem Suder, the man who showed me faith again--he a Christian, I a Jew 

It's the "Why" of Post-Stroke Fatigue That I Wanted Answers To!

Hippocrates, the father of medicine, said long ago in ancient times, "Suddenly a healthy person is seized with head pain, immediately the voice fails, he snores, and the mouth is open (gapes), and if someone calls or moves, he only groans, nothing with meaning." He was describing apoplexy, which came to be as stroke around the 1700s. 

Though doctors now understand the causes and effects of a stroke, the condition hasn’t always been well understood. Even now. Apoplexy, or stroke, is a disorder in which a person falls with no warning yet retaining pulse and respiration. 

In all that time, doctors still don't everything? Stroke is the fifth leading cause of death and the first in disability around the world. Well, it's time to bring stroke forward to the front burner!

One of the things about which the doctors are puzzled is fatigue. Take me, for example. I need to nap sometimes, less often because I'm taking Vitamin B12, the energy booster. But if I feel that a nap is about to happen, I don't want to take a nap because it means later bedtime. Rather, I need to take a nap. 

I asked the pharmacist if any of my medicines could add to the fatigue which is becoming more prevalent recently.

"I see here on the screen that you didn't change medications for a few years. So why are you tired recently?"

He was no help. And no, it's not COVID. I was tested--twice recently. 

The American Heart Association claims, "Fatigue is frequent and often severe, even late after stroke. It is associated with profound deterioration of several aspects of everyday life and with higher case fatality, but it usually receives little attention by healthcare professionals. Intervention studies are needed."

And so it goes, study after study, that healthcare professionals admit more studies on Post-Stroke Fatigue (PSF) are needed, but few, if any, are being done.

From the National Institutes of Health (NIH): "There are some data that point to right hemispheric strokes being the cause of PSF. Damage to the brainstem has also been linked to fatigue. However, fatigue is so prevalent in the general population of stroke victims, the two types of stroke...do not completely explain the cause."

The NIH also goes on to say, "Fatigue may improve with time, but it can also be persistent and some patients may never be completely free of it. Tasks that may have come easily before the stroke may be harder and therefore require more energy than they previously would." 

I've done a formula and the result is this: compared to what I used to do, before the stroke, it now takes 3 times as long than the prior. 

So I guess we have to wait longer for the "why" role fatigue plays in most stroke survivors' lives. I don't know how much longer, but it won't be tomorrow, or even next year.

Emotional Intelligence: Most Brain-Injured People Have It

Do you know what Emotional Intelligence is? Let's pause for a moment and define it. 

Emotional Intelligence is not one or a few but ALL of your brain's mindset. They include the following:

• Social Skills
• Motivation
• Empathy
• Self Awareness
• Self Regulation

SOCIAL SKILLS

It's foremost to know where you are and where you're going. Otherwise, it's like trying to make a long trek without a map.  First, you won't know how to start. Second, you won't know if you are drawing close or just walking around your destination. That is, you understand what your current social strengths and limitations are. 

Brain-injured people, after awhile, should know their strengths and limitations. 

MOTIVATION

There are many theories that point to why people do the things they do. But my favorite is the Drive Theory in which people are motivated to an action to reduce the tension that is caused by unmet needs. You might be motivated to eat in order to reduce the state of hunger.

The drive theory is based on homeostasis, the idea that the body is working to maintain a certain state of balance.

Brain-injured people ultimately know what to do to avoid scary behavior that cause their equilibrium to go haywire, not at first but after repetitive falls, for example.

EMPATHY

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes to communicate that understanding back in return. It's the ability understand people's situation and feelings from their point of view.

Many brain-injured people say, "You can only know how this [stroke or other brain injury] feels if you were to see it for yourself."

SELF AWARENESS

From understood.org, people with self awareness can: 

• Recognize their strengths and challenges
• Understand and talk about their needs and feelings
• Recognize other people's needs and feelings
• See how their behavior affects others
• Develop a growth mindset and learn from their mistakes

Brain-injured should be able to accomplish all on the list, with practice and lots of it.

SELF REGULATION

Dr. Steven Stosny says in Psychology Today, "Consistent self-regulation requires focus on your deepest values rather than feelings. It's also the best way to feel better. Violation of values invariably produces bad feelings, while fidelity to them eventually makes you feel more authentic and empowered." 

In other words, taking feelings out of the picture, what is the right thing to do?

Most brain-injured people, at least the hundreds--maybe more--that I met online (and after awhile) are more patient and inwardly compassionate, looking at what is right--the core values--than focusing on feelings which makes you angrier, frustrated, hateful. 

To all of the brain-injured people out there, wouldn't you agree that I'm talking, with lots of repetitions, acquiring emotional intelligence is already almost there for you? If necessary, think about it and read this post again to understand my point of view. 

We got this, right?

My Blog "The Tales of a Stroke Patient and More" Has An Update!

I stand by that old expression that has been attributed to so many: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." I hate change but accept it--eventually.  

So I'm happy to announce on this snowy Christmas eve that The Tales of a Stroke Patient and More blog has a new home. After over 700,000 readers around the world (except Antarctica), I switched apps, a treacherous step indeed, and so I had to change where it now resides: 

https://talesofastrokesurvivor.blog

Coupled with the location change was a name change. There were two: I dropped the article "The" and the unneeded "And More" in the title. And after almost 13 years, which just seem like last month, I am definitely a survivor.

My memory of that place, the dreaded rehab center in Pomona, New Jersey, still remains, and I'm reminded of another quote said by Edward de Bono: "A  memory is what is left when something happens and does not completely unhappen."  

Anyway, so there it is. New location. New name. (And just in time for the) New Year.